We have a child residing in our home who is rather prone to SPECTACULAR melt downs. And I have to say, because my best coping skill is AVOIDANCE, there’s a big part of me that would prefer to ignore the bad behavior in an effort to avoid the fallout.
But by doing that, I would be creating a monster, and would therefore totally suck at this whole parenting gig. And thankfully I have Fiddledaddy to gently encourage me to stick to my guns, or else the whole ship will go down in a flaming heap of crappola.
Last week a situation arose in which one of our children was in need of discipline. Therefore, this child was sent to the timeout corner. I really can’t even remember the infraction, likely because ALL THE HORMONES have caused valuable brain cells to die off prematurely. Like breast feeding didn’t do enough damage.
Anyhoo. The child in question while positioned in the time out corner vented a good deal of their frustration on our hapless and not-so-well constructed mini-corner. It’s more of a bend, really. The aggressive manner of the venting presented itself as a knee shaped hole in the drywall.
This caused the guilty child to FREAK OUT even more upon realizing the damage inflicted on the innocent wall.
And isn’t it wonderful that this is the time of year wherein we like to have ALL THE WINDOWS OPEN in an effort to usher in the crisp winter-like air?
After all was said and done, this particular child of mine accompanied Fiddledaddy to Home Depot and purchased (with their own money) a wall repair kit.
There was some talk of the prolific use of duct tape (as is not an uncommon element in many of our home repairs) but I vetoed the motion.
I bring this up not only to make you all feel better about your parenting prowess, but to illustrate a point that came up when discussing this issue with close friends.
I had recently read an article at Mom’s Homeroom on Tips for Handling Temperament Traits. And let me tell you, these tips are INVALUABLE when dealing with 3 children with very very different temperaments. One of the ideas presented had to do with activity level, in that if your child has a VERY HIGH ENERGY threshold, a parent needs to heed the signals that indicate your child needs to blow off some steam. And the tip involved was “Avoid using confinement as a method of discipline.”
The issue we were discussing with our friends is that we’ve all noticed behavioral problems (especially among our high energy children) have been a good deal more noticeable since our sports season has ended. These kids were getting a LOT of exercise during the swim team season. And now? Not nearly as much. We were lamenting that it’s not like when we were kids and our parents kicked us out the door after breakfast, and didn’t expect to see us until dinner. Days were spent riding bikes, climbing trees, chasing wildlife, and building forts. It saddens me that we aren’t able to provide these freedoms for our kids (for many reasons which would be an entirely new discussion).
The solution as we see it is to get creative and provide more chances for our kids to run themselves ragged.
It’s either that or I’m going to have to invest in duct tape stock and boxing gloves.
During the off season (sports wise) how do you ensure your child has the opportunity to blow off steam?
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