The hole-in-the-wall gang

We have a child residing in our home who is rather prone to SPECTACULAR melt downs.  And I have to say, because my best coping skill is AVOIDANCE, there’s a big part of me that would prefer to ignore the bad behavior in an effort to avoid the fallout.

But by doing that, I would be creating a monster, and would therefore totally suck at this whole parenting gig.  And thankfully I have Fiddledaddy to gently encourage me to stick to my guns, or else the whole ship will go down in a flaming heap of crappola.

Last week a situation arose in which one of our children was in need of discipline.  Therefore, this child was sent to the timeout corner.  I really can’t even remember the infraction, likely because ALL THE HORMONES have caused valuable brain cells to die off prematurely.  Like breast feeding didn’t do enough damage.

Anyhoo.  The child in question while positioned in the time out corner vented a good deal of their frustration on our hapless and not-so-well constructed mini-corner.  It’s more of a bend, really.  The aggressive manner of the venting presented itself as a knee shaped hole in the drywall.

This caused the guilty child to FREAK OUT even more upon realizing the damage inflicted on the innocent wall.

And isn’t it wonderful that this is the time of year wherein we like to have ALL THE WINDOWS OPEN in an effort to usher in the crisp winter-like air?

After all was said and done, this particular child of mine accompanied Fiddledaddy to Home Depot and purchased (with their own money) a wall repair kit.

There was some talk of the prolific use of duct tape (as is not an uncommon element in many of our home repairs) but I vetoed the motion.

I bring this up not only to make you all feel better about your parenting prowess, but to illustrate a point that came up when discussing this issue with close friends.

I had recently read an article at Mom’s Homeroom on Tips for Handling Temperament Traits.  And let me tell you, these tips are INVALUABLE when dealing with 3 children with very very different temperaments.  One of the ideas presented had to do with activity level, in that if your child has a VERY HIGH ENERGY threshold, a parent needs to heed the signals that indicate your child needs to blow off some steam.  And the tip involved was “Avoid using confinement as a method of discipline.”

Parenting fail.

The issue we were discussing with our friends is that we’ve all noticed behavioral problems (especially among our high energy children) have been a good deal more noticeable since our sports season has ended.  These kids were getting a LOT of exercise during the swim team season.  And now?  Not nearly as much.  We were lamenting that it’s not like when we were kids and our parents kicked us out the door after breakfast, and didn’t expect to see us until dinner.  Days were spent riding bikes, climbing trees, chasing wildlife, and building forts.  It saddens me that we aren’t able to provide these freedoms for our kids (for many reasons which would be an entirely new discussion).

The solution as we see it is to get creative and provide more chances for our kids to run themselves ragged.

It’s either that or I’m going to have to invest in duct tape stock and boxing gloves.

During the off season (sports wise) how do you ensure your child has the opportunity to blow off steam?

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7 Responses to The hole-in-the-wall gang

  • We are blessed to have sheep, dogs, trees to climb and the mailbox a decent little walk away from the house (wherein Netflix envelopes come with regularity), which all contribute to exercise. Oh, gymnastics class too. Oh and indoor obstacle courses that the kids set up in their rooms, fun, fun.
    Have a great day!

  • “building forts”…oh the memories…

  • Don’t anyone throw a book at me yet, but if you can afford it a giant trampoline with a net has been invaluable to our family. It not only helped the kids learn their balance but it helped my sensory seeker child to blow off steam especially when we are homeschooling and I can seee I am losing said concentration. Some other ways are to provide “heavy work” work that helps them center themselves when getting frustrated or to head it off. There is a ton of ways and you can do a google search on heavy work and will find many cool activities and activities you can build into their chores as well. Some of what we use are these: take heavy laundry baskets to washer room, a good one for outside is to have them sit at a table and use a regular cereal bowl full of water and one or two drops of dishsoap and a straw have them blow as many bubbles as they want. I know sounds childish but they love it and it wears them out. Set up games of tag in the back yard, go for family swim night a couple nights a week since swim team worked for you. etc. Like I said google heavy work and see what it comes up with. Good luck!

  • We bought an adult rebounder with a balance bar. I use it for exercise and my boys use it to release energy. They love it!

  • I bought a rebounder trampoline with a bar a few days ago. It’s been much calmer in our house, less teasing a sibling out of boredom.

  • I highly recommend: Rollerskating, BMX style bike riding (if there’s a place near you), basketball with friends, pogo sticks, scooters (foot powered), gymnastics, dance classes, YMCA swimming or other classes, family / friends tennis or raquetball (if you have a park near you), playdough (this is a life saver if you only allow them to play with it no more than once a week), pinwheels … running with pinwheels is fun for kids… for a while anyway. Gunnie sack races, jump rope contests, hopscotch, balloon volleyball, learning to juggle…. starting with scarves. You get the idea 😉

  • Mini trampoline has become an invaluable “time out” tool, As well as a general energy outlet. Unfortunately, in this house, sometimes the adults have temper tantrums and leave holes in the wall. Sigh… Hereditary bites it in the behind sometimes, doesn’t it?