Girls are from Venus – a review and giveaway! (Closed)

When the ultrasound technician said, “It’s a girl,” about our first child, I was ecstatic. Visions of Barbies, tutus, and cheerleading outfits danced in my head. I was equally happy when he said the same thing two years later, while my husband could only hold his head in his hands muttering something like, oh dear God.

As a post note, God did hear his plea and gave him a boy the third time out. Wherein my husband may or may not have kissed the ultrasound tech. But that’s another story. I really thought I was prepared for girls. After all, I’m a girl. Well. I was a girl. Now I’m nothing more than a human kleenex, what with ALL THE HORMONES flying around here now that the girls in question are 12 and 10–as I stand on the precipice of menopause.

GOOD TIMES.

I have now learned that nothing prepared me for raising girls. Not even being one. As the alpha female of the house, it has been mostly up to me to disseminate information regarding changing body parts and well, hormones, puberty, and other gruesome topics.

I knew I was in trouble a number of years ago when Emme, my oldest, came up to me holding a tampon she spotted in my purse. For a split second I concocted a wild lie in my head that would help me to avoid that whole conversation–because avoidance is one of my best coping skills.

But then I flashed back to the 5th grade when my best friend spilled the beans about the birds and the bees AND the whole sordid truth about Santa Claus all in one misinformed paragraph.

Deep breath.

It’s better she learn the truth. From her own mother. So I launched into a medically correct and not at all scary account of menstruation. Squeamish in nature, the child turned pale and slid down the wall. “Um, Mom, can we talk about this later?”

I’ve learned to field questions as they’ve come up, doling out bits of information as I feel they can be handled. Not easy for someone who giggles uncontrollably and has a penchant for the inappropriate when nervous.

It’s a gift.

The latest discussion we’ve been having between all of the estrogen-laden in our home is about hygiene.

For some odd reason, I have had to assume the moniker of Hygiene Police. I’m guessing this will continue until one or both of my girls discover that boys are not all that disgusting. I’m in no hurry for this revelation, by the way.

We’ve had extensive conversations about hair washing, the joys of deodorant, and the all important shaving ritual. I’ve completely left it up to them as to when they want to begin shaving their legs. And since they inherited my gene follicles, I’m certain that it will be sooner rather than later.

Gillette has made my job a lot easier in this regard. I’ve long been a fan of the 5-blade Venus razor I’ve been using for years, along with the Gillette Satin Care Shave Gel.

Recently they sent me a Venus Embrace razor for new shavers. I compared it to my tried and true Venus Embrace, and the only difference I noticed was that it is a pretty bright pink version. It has the same soft handle, 5 blade system with a Ribbon of Moisture at the edge for a very comfortable and close shave.

It is exactly the right type of razor for my girls who have limited shaving experience–save for the unfortunate incident when one of them tried to shave off her own finger when she was around 6. It was the squeamish child, so the ensuing crime scene affect in the bathroom was enough to steer her clear of razors for many years.

She’s recovered, and is ready to embark on the journey to smooth legs and moving from the tween to the teen years. God help me.

Gillette also sent the Satin Care Passionista Fruit shave gel. This is a brand new scent I hadn’t tried, and I have to say that I love the fruity citrus smell. A perfect combination, that looks especially nice together on the edge of the bathtub.

If you have a first-time shaver in your home, you should check out some of these great tips.

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May 21, 2012

90 Responses to Girls are from Venus – a review and giveaway! (Closed)

  • ack… commentor number 1… never wins… but as for ‘first’ conversations… I say tell the truth, but only what they ask. Be blunt, be honest. If you aren’t, they will seek answers elsewhere and who knows what they will find out. EEeeekkk…

  • I, too, have a 10 year old beginning puberty at the same time that I find myself on the verge of menopause…I share your joy.

    I did begin the puberty conversation with my reluctant daughter but found it helpful to have most of the conversation while doing something else. Like driving, cooking, cleaning…it gave us an opportunity to talk and focus on something else, initially. After the ‘newness’ of the topic wore off, my daughter was much more comfortable.

  • Oh yeah! Fun stuff!!! My oldest wants to crawl in a huge hole when we have to talk about “delicate” stuff. The other child will ask questions.

    I’ve found our best time for quiet talks is when I’m tucking them into bed. We turn out the lights, sing our good night song (makes me warm and fuzzy that at 11 & 13 they still want to sing our silly song – sorry, sidetracked), say our prayers and talk about their day. It’s the time where each daughter gets me all to themselves for a few minutes!

    Cuddling in the dark makes it easier for them to relax and talk. As questions arise, I’ve shared information based on their age and “need to know”.

    I think the important thing is to establish the quiet times of talking and sharing when they are small. Kids need to know that they can come and talk to you about anything – big or small.

    I also pray a lot for me to have the right words for them and not scar or bore them (fine line between those!!)! 😉

  • I agree that its best to take the moments as they happen instead of making a big production of having “the talk”.

  • We are all about honesty over here. I share a lot with my kids, much to their disdain, but I feel they need to know its nothing to be embarrassed about.

  • I agree that it is best to handle the questions age appropriatly as they come up. However, my oldest who just turned ten, WASN’T ASKING ANY QUESTIONS! And since I knew “the talk” was coming up in her gym class at school, she and I went out for a girlie day of shopping and fun. At lunch, I found a secluded corner and we had “the talk”. It actually went very well and she is very willing to come and ask me questions as she has them now.

  • Oh my goodness. My oldest is 9. She finally asked about the birds & the bees a couple months ago. I thought I might die. After a few attempts at these sorts of conversations, I’ve found what’s best for me is to let her determine the direction of the conversation. I let her lead with questions. Otherwise I’ve found I give her too much info, and she zones out. So it’s been easiest to just let her ask away til she feels we’ve satisfied the question.

  • I try to use those “teaching” moments as they arrive. I try not to give too much information, but I’m afraid I often do, and confuse the poor kids. Ha!

  • I only have boys…and they are young. However, I have already had to explain where babies come from to a 5 year old. I think it’s best to be honest, don’t make up cute names for body parts, and give as much information (or as little) as the child can handle at the age they are at.

  • My daughter is too young still (she’s 2) but I remember my mom reading “Where do I come from?” with me to teach me about the facts of life.

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  • I think it’s important to be honest, open and respectful when talking to your kids about body parts etc.

  • my daughter is only 4 mos old but when gets older im going to teach her to be honest and to be happy !

  • I believe if you can be supportive and have open communication, you can overcome any subject that deals with growing up issues.

  • Well, I have had no “firsts” conversations up to this point, but I am enjoying gleaning the wisdom of all of your wise readers as they need to happen within the next year or so. I have started working through a wonderful Mom/Daugther Devo by Dannah Gresh with my daughter nightly which leads to heartfelt and intimate conversations. She really craves this time with me, so, my advice would be to start something like this before starting the firsts so that having the quiet time to share will come naturally.

  • How about: find a great book! That can give you a starting point for conversation. After that, I agree that very matter-of-fact is the way to go, not sharing more than you need to to avoid scaring them off. For us, it helps to tackle potentially embarrassing topics when the other kids aren’t around AND when there’s some kind of task at hand to allow both of you to focus on something else a bit. Driving somewhere together helps (eyes on the road = not so embarrassing) or gardening or dishes or something.

  • No kids but if I DID have them, I think I’d start by telling them how I felt when I was their age.

  • As I notice body changes occurring , ( mercy Lord, she’s only 11) we discuss them, usually at bedtime away from little brothers. I also hand them a book to read on their own and then we discuss it. One girl down, one in the midst. The boys, dad handles.

  • make sure you talk WITH them not TO them!:)

  • I know they have a assembly at school when they are the right age but I would love to sit down and have a coversation with my kids when i feel its the right time. I do have a book to help as well.

  • Just be honest, and ask them if they have any questions.

  • My daughter is only 4, but I keep my explanations simple and always remind her how pretty and smart she is!

  • I have always found that a good time to talk about sensitive topics is to and from school. We are alone in the car, no eye contact is made and she is a captive audience. She seems to be more comfortable talking about a lot of things during this short ride to and from school.

  • I have several Christian books that word the “birds and the bees” so well. So I will read “THE BOOK” with the kids when they are ready. Although it is very difficult for me, I do use the proper terms for private parts with them. My oldest never wanted to hear about the “THE BOOK” again after I read it to him. He was grossed out. My second and third had LOTS of questions. Although I was feeling so nerve-wracked, I was also happy and thankful they felt they could be so open and ask questions. It was definitely a “need-chocolate-moment” when it was all over. LOL

  • Oh, one of THOSE posts.
    I’ll be honest with you, I was scared of THE TALK before it happened. And when it did, I cried and hit my knees before I had to speak to THE CHILD.
    First one was easy. I have a notebook of letters I write to her when I have something I want her to read later in life. I’ll give it to her when she marries. Well, I wrote down what I wanted to say about her body and how it was changing, then just read it to her. Easy, peasy. And I gave her her first package of PRODUCTS. And some gum. To ease the scarring of THE TALK.
    The second one was hard. First of all, it was a boy. Before anyone jumps in and says something about how his daddy should have given him THE TALK, let me tell you that daddy was WAY more scared about it than me. And the circumstances that led to THE TALK put me in the path to be the one to do it.
    He was only nine when I walked into his room and found him…. YOU KNOW.
    He didn’t know why he was embarrassed, but he was. And I was mortified, but I hid it. Mostly. I told him I’d be back in a few minutes to talk to him and gently closed the door.
    *then I went blubbering to my bedroom and fell on my face before the Lord.
    **SIDE NOTE~ I was molested as a child, and my whole perception of normal childhood sexuality and exploration was skewed by the time I was five, so I have struggled with how to protect and teach my children God’s ways. Please don’t feel sorry for me. It is what it is, and God has brought beauty from the pain. But the long and short of it was that I needed help in giving my son THE TALK.
    So I dried my eyes and called a friend and fellow homeschool mom, whom I knew had the book I wanted to read to my son. Actually, It’s a series called, God’s Design for Sex. I highly recommend it.
    I went over there and got the books and read them alone. Perfect.
    Then I set my son down in private and explained what he was doing and what it was called, read him the first two books in the series, and gave him this example:
    Scenario: Daddy and I bought a Christmas present for him and hid it, and he found it while we weren’t looking. He took it down off the closet shelf and played with the wrapped gift, then put it back. Then, the next time we weren’t looking, he took it down again and pulled back a corner of the wrapper to see what it was, before putting it back. The next time, he unwrapped it completely and played with it in the package before putting it back. After that, he took it out of the package and played with it so much that it broke before putting it back. By the time we gave it to him at Christmas, it wouldn’t be special, it wouldn’t be new, it wouldn’t be fun, or even useful.
    Our sexuality is very much like that. It is a gift from God, to be opened at the right time. It is to be shared and explored together with our spouse and no one else, not even ourselves.
    It was a very special conversation, and, coupled with the books, our openness about our bodies and how they work is amazing. Both of my children know the how and why and when and the WHO about sex. And I am happy to say that none of us were scarred by THE TALK. Much.
    Oh, and as for our daughter shaving, we had a rule that when she began sprouting hair under her arms, she could have a razor. Worked for us perfectly.

  • My daughter and I started all our serious conversations by writing post-its back and forth to each other. Somehow, this broke the ice and we joke about it not that she has her own “at that age” son.

  • Timing is everything. Answer questions as they are asked. Do not elaborate if you do not need to.

  • I don’t have any teenage girls–just a boy, but I think it is good to be interested in their lives and be willing to make time for them… Thanks for a chance to win and have a great day!
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  • I guess my tip would be to have conversations around those issues be normal and regular long before the firsts actually happen!

  • It is certainly not easy to be a parent, especially tackling those tough “first” conversations with my kids. But the best way I prefer is openness and be honest and straight forward. That’s the way I preferred to be treated, so, I’ll do the same with my kids.

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  • I’m gonna go with honesty is the best policy on this one.

  • I think if you have a good relationship with your kids as they’re growing up, all important conversations will come much more naturally.
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  • Being honest and being a good listener helps.

  • Be honest and realistic are best tips from my experience.
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  • I would say to be patient and understanding. Share with them a personal childhood/teenage memory of your own!

  • My daughter is too young. I’m going to teach her just be herself and honest

  • It is easy to talk with kids to tell them about life… it is natural and they should be talked with frequently over the years. Just tell the truth, treat them with respect, and trust that they are smart enough to understand.
    In regards to shaving, that is a cultural thing that we do to “fit in” to society, and that is how I will explain it.

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  • my tip is to have conversations over food so you can process while we chew!

  • My tip is to be calm and treat your child with respect; treating them like an adult will allow them the choice of starting to act like an adult.

  • It is best to be honest and it also depends on their age. If their too young then I’d stick to what they asked you about. If your uncomfortable, there’s some books you can get to help you.

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  • Funny, but I just had my first conversation about this the other day with my eight year old son. Thanks for the opportunity and invitation to write about it.
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  • My daughter is only (almost) two, so we haven’t had those big conversations yet, but when we do, I hope to be honest and listen well.

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  • just try to be open and honest about everything so it doesn’t feel awkward or embarassing….instead it is just part of life.

  • things like shaving are simply a fact of life – just be open and honest – sharing a mother -daughter day helps too!

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  • my daughter is still a baby so I haven’t had to have any “talks” with her yet

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  • Tackling tough “firsts” conversations with my kids is not too easy, be honest and have the conversation with him/her personally and share my past experience, he/she would be interested to listen and learn.

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  • My daughter was pretty easy – just try not to be uptight (I was on occasion) and it’s much easier 🙂

  • I don’t have kids, but as a child I appreciated Mom being honest and available

  • Mom of three boys, oldest is 6 and though curious about my monthly “special bathroom supplies”, they thankfully don’t press for more details when I say “that’s just for mommies.” I’m enjoying the good words of advice from the comments, and can see where it is wise to be specific – I’ve always told them that they were once in my tummy, and during my last pregnancy my oldest tried to open my mouth to get a look down there at the baby. Sound logic, but based on a faulty explanation. 🙂

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  • I think being open with your kids is my best advice. Thanks for the chance to win!
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  • For the big stuff, we do Passport to Purity – an awkward yet fun weekend away with your son/daughter that covers all the important bases. To keep the converstions going, my husband takes my girls out on dates about once a month.

  • I always tried to bring up “firsts” as part of our ordinary conversation unless they asked a question first. Most of the time treating things as just ordinary things that happened to everyone worked very well. I do remember getting an illustrated book that I read to all the kids, boys and girls, when they were too young to really understand. But it set the stage for later talks.

  • I just am honest with my daughter.

  • When we have one of those ‘firsts conversations’, I just make sure my kids know that they can ask me any questions.

  • I’d have to say that honesty is the best policy in any ‘first’ moment. Be honest and be comfortable and your kids will trust you!

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  • Don’t be afraid to tell them you don’t know something, but be prepared to find the correct answer
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  • We are open and honest with our daughter so these conversations are a bit easy. sweepmorey at gmail dot com

  • My best tip is to approach the conversation and answer only the questions your child has at the time – don’t overwhelm them with information they may not be ready to deal with.

  • My daughter is a teenager…quite honestly I was “nervous” about tough
    first conversation…took the plunge and found she wanted to know things..this helped ..I believe being honest is helpful
    thanks

  • I think it is KEY to be honest and open with your kids, even if what you have to tell them isn’t fun. LOL My mom made me watch her shave one evening when I was 11 and complaining about being teased for not shaving. After watching her and having her tell me “you will do this every night for the rest of your life once you start,” I didn’t start shaving until I was 13! LOL