Mayo or Bust

I wanted to let you all know that I fired my Orthopedic Surgeon (in my head) and am aiming the van north to go to the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville the middle of next week.  Bottom line, when he suggested that I see a Psychiatrist to deal with MY RAW EMOTIONS and that some Zoloft might be just what I need to feel better, well, check please.

Don’t get me wrong.  I have nothing against Zoloft.  In fact, I’ve been campaigning for it for years, but Fiddledaddy set me up with a Blog instead.

The final straw was when the doctor, who has operated on me TWO times in the last 6 months, completely forgot that he told me last visit that my knee pain was attributed to a deep bone bruise and that I needed to take it easy and heal.  Because he has done a 180, and thinks my pain is attributable to lack of mobility and he wants me in Physical Therapy 3 times a week for the next 2 to 3 months.

Oh, and he said something to the affect that pain is subjective, and some people tolerate it better than others.

Hello?  I cannot walk without a brace?  And even then I move at the speed of smell.  With a pronounced limp.  But he thinks my knee looks great and has improved.  And that I need to look at the positive.  I tell you what.  I looked at positively tossing him out the window.

By this time, I was in full blown melt down and I thought Fiddledaddy’s head was going to explode all over the doctor’s nice white lab coat.


I have a great deal of peace about going to Mayo and having doctors that are on the cutting edge of Orthopedics look at all my records and give me a 2nd opinion.

So, next week I’ll be packing up my laptop and blogging live from the Mayo Clinic.  A road trip.  It’ll be fun.  There.  THAT’S looking at the positive.

As far as all the nerve function I’ve lost in my arms and hand, I feel like my family doctor has all of that well in hand.  I’ve had blood work drawn, x-rays done, and the x-ray on my left elbow warranted an MRI yesterday.  This was my first foray of the entirety of me going into the metal tube.   I held fast to the panic button, in case claustrophobia took over, or they started playing Barry Mannilow over the headset.

Either way, it wouldn’t have been pretty.

Now I wait.  But I’m not stressed.  One day at a time.

Thank you so much for all the sweet notes in my e-mail box, filled with your encouragement and prayers.  You guys are better than Zoloft any day of the week.

Have a great weekend!

26 Responses to Mayo or Bust

  • Hopefully the experts at the Mayo Clinic can find the right answers for you. Keeping you in my prayers!

  • I’m a big fan of switching doctor’s when you need to. When I was pregnant with the twins, my doctor (new to me) actually FORGOT I was having twins. Oh, and he said I read too many books about pregnancy.

    I left that day with my chart in hand.

    And it was a good thing…pregnancy went downhill soon after, and I was grateful to be in competent hands!!

    Praying for you, Dee Dee.

  • I am so glad you are getting a 2nd opinion! What is happening to you is not in your head!! Go get the answers you need and then you will feel better moving forward. I look forwarded to hearing from you from Mayo.

  • Hi Deedee,
    Good job…..Praying

  • Def get a second opinion. Some docs are great and others, well….get a second opinion. I think sometimes docs get tired of dealing with patients that require more than just in/out and a bill. Get somebody who wants to listen and help. Praying for you.

  • Glad to hear you’re moving on up. 😉 And, please take not only your laptop but a book as well. Your appts will probably be scheduled all on one day with several hours in between each. My mantra when going to Mayo to do ANYTHING (even a well child visit, yes, I live in the shadow of Mayo) is to “pack a lunch and spend the day”.

  • Oh I feel for you. I suffer from chronic pain and several docs have not been able to find a source. It always comes down to “it must be in your head”. They’re never that direct, but the “different people… different pain tolerance” statement coupled with a prescription for Zoloft certainly suggests it. Good move on firing that doc.
    You are in my prayers. I hope you receive the treatment you need at Mayo.

  • It won’t hurt to have the docs at Mayo confirm that you’re on the right track with your arm/hand pain. While you’re there. 😉 Who knows … they *could* be related??? Praying that you will get answers next week.

  • Good luck DeeDee. Maybe while you go to your new family physician, you should have HIM check out your knee. Sounds like he has a better grasp than the surgeon who can’t make up his mind. I think doctors are like any other service industry, if you don’t like the “customer service” there are always a LOT of other choices. I’ll be praying…

  • ((Hugs)) You are a strong lady. Keep leaning on the Lord!

  • Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Good for you!! I’m proud of you for taking your health seriously and doing what needs to be done!!! I’ll never forget the time my doctor told the pain in my foot was because I tied my shoes too tightly. Or the pain when running was shin splints. ( I actually had a stress fracture)

  • My aunt just went to that same Mayo clinic on Tuesday. She said it was a great experience, she felt respected as a patient, and her doctor spent a lot of time with her. Hoping you get the answers and relief you need…

  • I fired my children’s pediatrician when I simply mentioned that I MIGHT want to spread their vaccines out a little bit and asked about the MMR/autism thing. He rolled his eyes at me and I checked out.

    Hoping you get some answers at Mayo!

  • Amen, sister. Good choice. Doctors are like any other humans–they make mistakes, they can overlook clues, they can jump to erroneous conclusions, they can be flat out WRONG. And I’m sure that Zoloft isn’t going to fix your knee.

    That reminds me of the time I had post-partum anxiety really bad after my third. I hauled my 4 and 2 year olds plus my newborn infant to the GP’s office. I had to see a doc I didn’t know b/c my doc was out. I told her I couldn’t sleep, hadn’t slept at all literally for 5 days straight (which was true). I told her I knew something was wrong, that I thought maybe I’d need to find a therapist, but in the short term, could she please give me a small prescription to help me sleep for a few nights while I got started on working out a plan? She told me she thought I had PPD (duh) and she suggested…get this…that I lay down and take a nap. “You really need to get out, go get your hair cut, or talk with a friend. You need to take a nap every day.” I looked at her and said, “What should I do with the children while I do these things? Leave them alone?” and she said, “Well, I don’t know, you need to get some help of course.” And I said, “Yes. I am planning to get some help. But I have no family here. I’ll need to hire help or ask friends. And I haven’t slept for 5 days. Can you please give me something to sleep so that I can start working on my plan to get out of this PPD?” and she REFUSED. She said, “You just need to call a friend and take a nap.” I walked right out the door with my screaming 3 kids (and my oldest had some Jensen like habits when young, so he was screaming the whole time in her office, actually). What kind of suck response is that? To tell a woman with PPD/A to “take a nap”?

    Good luck at Mayo!!

  • Good for you. Gotta be your own advocate.

  • Good for you! I had a feeling…

    Enjoy your ‘road trip’ and know we’ll be praying for you!

  • Good for you! I refuse to give people my business if they look down their nose at me and I have left more than one doctor because of condescending treatment. Failure to remember things they have told me, especially if they can’t find it in their notes will result in my never returning also.

    Did they really give you a panic button in the MRI? I was traumatized with the MRI I had and panicked recently just having a Cat Scan. The MRI tech knew I was starting to panic and HE LEFT ME IN THE MACHINE to go get another patient. If I ever have to have another MRI it will either be an open one or they will have to knock me out.

    Good luck at Mayo. I hope they have some answers for you.

  • Have you ever seen the show on…maybe it’s A&E….something about Medical Mysteries. It seems all the patients, after visiting several doctors and maybe almost dying, that one of the doctors tells them “It’s in your head” and usually tries to prescribe some depression/anxiety drug. The patient gets upset…”It’s NOT in my HEAD! There is something wrong with me!” They eventually keep doctor searching until they find one who is willing to take the time to listen and figure it out and they finally get treatment – that is if they don’t die of their ailment first.

    So keep plugging along! Maybe if your joints are delicate from the crutches you could get a wheelchair or some other sort of mechanical assistance so you don’t have to put so much stress on them.

    And you have a GREAT husband who is really looking out for you – you are blessed.

    I’ll pray for you and your knee. God Bless!

  • Silly me (more like forgetful me since I KNOW you’ve mentioned going to the Mayo Clinic before) but I actually thought this post was going to be about mayo as in mayonnaise when I first read the title. LOL Hmmmm…guess I’m hungry. Anyway, I don’t blame you one little bit. I hope you find answers there…and better care.

    Have a wonderful weekend.

  • So, so sorry you had that experience with that doctor. How demoralizing. I hope you can get the answers you need… praying that you get the answers you need at Mayo. This has been a LONG road and anyone would have grown “sick and tired of being sick and tired”, as my Grandpa would say, many many moths ago! Your fortitude and endurance and sense of humor amaze me and inspire me.

  • Good for you. My husband has 5 discs that are slowly degenerating, and his back constantly hurts. I don’t know how he stands it. He went to doctor after doctor and got the same response: “You’re too young to have this much pain. It’s all in your head.” Finally, after several MRIs, one doctor actually apologized for blowing him off.

    I think that telling patients they’re imagining pain is doctor-speak for “I have no idea how to help you.”

    I hope the Mayo visit is a great experience.

  • I am proud of you: you are brave and doing exactly the RIGHT thing. Praying for you and your family, girl.

  • I think the critical word is SURGEON in Orthopedic Surgeon.
    Very best of luck with your trip to Mayo.

  • I can’t believe your ex- surgeon…! I had heard from another source that he is very arrogant… Wouldn’t it be nice if he does not know the problem, that he would admit it! Docotrs can be very arrogant… You will be in very good hands at Mayo… My husband’s niece went there and they helped diagnose a very strange illness she has and she is doing SO MUCH BETTER!

    I will pray for you….


  • I’m sorry to say I can relate. After experiencing Endocrine System issues (which means HORMONES!) I saw 5 different Endocrinologists in 4 years. The end of the tale is, none of them really helped me, notta, zilch. Be glad you have a bone, an x-ray, an MRI for multiple docs to look at. Try getting any 2 docs to agree on Hormone levels that have an 800 point range! Frustrating, and melt-downs still on occasion. My last doc wasn’t so sly as to suggest “Zoloft” he flat out said in PRINT, that I needed psychiatric evaluation. I have since sworn off all endocrinologists and just do the best that I can with my regular docs. Moral of the story-listen to your own voice, you know your body, keep fighting. Don’t let the —— get you down 🙂

  • I agree with them all and good for you. Just wanted to tell you that we did some last minute traveling that way recently and made all of our hotel reservations through — you know, where you name your price but you don’t get to know that name of the hotel until after you pay — well, we eneded up at the Marriott Courtyard at Mayo Clinic in Jax. It’s right on the clinic campus. We laughed and joked about it at first since we were not infirmed, but it turned out to be a very nice, quiet, peaceful hotel. If you’re going to spend the night, I recommend it.
    Praying for some answers for you!