Girlfriends

As an older mother of young children, I have at times felt rather isolated. Girlfriends are hard to come by. Most of my really close girlfriends are those whose friendships were formed when we were all young and single, and had a considerable amount of time to waste bond.

You really get to know who your friends are by those gals who are willing to hold your hair when you vomit on an innocent tree.

Just sayin’.

I began blogging during a time when I was in great need of community. And I had no idea that the act of blogging would fill that void. But, it did. I soon discovered that I was not alone in my motherly struggles. What I assumed was insanity, was only a need to commiserate with other women in the same sinking boat.

I’ve forged some valuable friendships with some amazing women. Women I’ve never met. Which, if you had told me that I would be making friends, you know, over the internet, I would have crossed my left and right pointer fingers in front of me, and backed away from you.

I had the distinct privelege of meeting some of those women this last weekend. In person. Like in real life. Not even pretend.

My roommate at She Speaks was Antique Mommy. I cannot even begin to tell you how much I enjoyed her. She is down to earth, honest, warm, and SO STINKING FUNNY. She’s the kind of friend that I know will always tell me if I have lettuce stuck to my teeth.

Not that I did. But, I just know that I could count on her to not let me make a fool of myself in public. That’s all that needs to be said about that.

I adore her. I know that I have found a friend for life.

I also got to hang out with some of my favorite blogging women. You know them as BooMama, Big Mama, and Rocks in My Dryer. Oh my word. I love them. They are the real deal. Precious Godly women. Spending time with them was like falling into easy conversation with old comfortable friends. And my goodness, BooMama gives the best hug in the world.

And if that wasn’t wonderful enough, I also was able to chat with Linda @ Second Cup of Coffee, who is an everyday read for me, too. She is FUNNY. And so very real.

I was able to watch Lysa TerKeurst in action, as a speaker. I was in awe of her ability to capture the heart of her audience. She has such a love for this womens ministry and an easy rapoire, whether it be one on one, or a large gathering. She is one of the most gifted speakers I have ever witnessed.

I’m going to list some other really wonderful women I was able to spend time with. It’s VERY possible I’ve missed someone. I’m still so brain dead from all that I’ve taken in. I’m still processing everything I experienced.

This is me with Marybeth Whalen @ Cheaper By the Half Dozen. (I love this gal.) I’ve corresponded with her for well over a year, and felt like I was greeting an old and dear friend. Not OLD as in OLD, Marybeth, but old as in I feel like I’ve known you for a long long time. I got to get to know Dawn of My Home Sweet Home better. She is such a talented designer. (She’s also responsible for some of these pictures. THANK YOU DAWN!) Between she and Marybeth, they have 14 children. And homeschool. Freaks.

Just kidding. I love y’all. BTW, the tired looking one on the left is me, Dawn is center, and Marybeth is on the right.

I was also able to get to know Lisa, Kelley, Missy, Krista, Sarah, Carol, Jo-Lynne, Robin and Valerie better. BEAUTIFUL women. Both inside and out.

Spending time with girlfriends must include shoe shopping. It’s in the by-laws.

I met so many other kindred spirits. Friends I hope to get to know better. I feel so very blessed to have been able to attend this conference. I learned so much. God has had much to teach me.

I’m sure I’ll be sharing with you what I’m continuing to process in the days and weeks ahead. The biggest lesson, is that I want to bloom where I’m planted.

I no longer feel the need to publish the, you know, BOOK. Not now. This blog is all I need for now. Thank you for all your well wishes and prayers. It was difficult to step out of my comfort zone. And what do you know, in doing so, I felt right at home.

35 Responses to Girlfriends

  • Glad you had a wonderful time “outside of your comfort zone.” I’m so jealous, if I were only in the States so I could go to things like this. But that is the joy of blogging….living vicariously through others!

  • I’m so glad you had a great time. I was so worried that, since i Wasn’t able to come, you’d spend the entire weekend weeping and so utterly depressed you’d never leave your room.

    Looks like you did a great job hiding your distress.

    Ahem.

    Can’t wait to hear more, more, more!!!

  • Looks like a great time of friends and fellowship! Glad you enjoyed yourself. 🙂

  • I’ve enjoyed seeing everyone’s She Speaks recaps & pics so much!! I know Marybeth & Jo-Lynne in person. Such sweet women!

    Steph

  • its great to hear that you enjoyed yourself – and learned a lot! Sounds like a successful conference!

  • What would we do without girlfriends? I have formed more friendships online and they get even better when we meet in person.

    I spent many years at home as a stay at home mom. And was very isolated from the outside world because of my hearing loss. The Internet has been a lifeline for me!

    Sounds like you had a great time at She Speaks. I, too, just returned home from a wonderful convention and am in “convention withdrawal” right now, if there is such a thing.

    Looking forward to your changes. . .keep on keeping on! You do make a difference, “Erma!”

    ~Laurie in TN

  • I love you girl. You’re my favorite.

  • New to your blog but am enjoying it so much. I’m so glad you all had a good time.
    I totally understand the old Mama, young child thing. I went to MOPS once recently at our church & it dawned on me, I could have been the Mama of the other mothers there. I felt like a freak but I love my Cam-Man & Princess Hurricane. They keep me young & very tired.

  • I am very glad that y’all had such a great time, and thank you for sharing it with us. 🙂 Any chance this was video taped and we can purchase a copy? 🙂

  • You, my friend, are also the real deal. Loved getting to meet you this weekend.

  • Ditto what Melanie said. It was so fun.

  • For the record, I’ve not really felt envious or deep-down sad that God had no intention for me to go to SheSpeaks… until THIS post.

    Blogging for me is the same venue that brought me friends who I call dear despite never seeing them face to face. There are certain people that I hope to meet this side of heaven; you’re one of them. I just hope that God allows that meet to happen soon… maybe next SheSpeaks!

    (And isn’t Antique Mommy a doll? She’s top notch in my book.)

  • This is my favorite She Speaks post so far, from all the bloggers.

    🙂

  • it sounds great. i would love to meet the bloggers i read.

  • DeeDee – I’m so glad you had a good time.

    Now you need to pray for me. I have issues. 😉

  • Okay, now you make me want to cry. Thank you for your kind words and sweet encouragement.

    I’m so glad you were at She Speaks this year and hope to see you again.

    From one Armpit Floridian to another… smiles!

  • So great to meet you! You are precious both in your blog and in person.

  • I did not get to go to She Speaks, but I am so enjoying reading about those of you who did….a little jealous (in a Godly way of course 😉

  • Dee Dee,
    I enjoyed meeting you. It is just so interesting to feel like you know someone you have never met. Your blog has been such a bright spot in my day. Thank you for your humor and most of all your honesty! She Speaks was an amazing weekend.
    Krista

  • You are most welcome for the pictures. It was truly an amazing weekend; I’m already looking forward to next year.

    I posted the same picture of us trying on the shoes, but I failed to give you credit for successfully managing not to flash the photographer. Good work!

  • Goodness, I am bummed that I didn’t get a chance to meet ya and tell you how much I enjoy your blog.

    Were you at the blogger reception?

    There is always next year…If they had signups today for it, I would list my name at the top!

    Blessings, Joanne

  • Sounds like it was wonderful. Is it okay to be jealous? By the way – you and Antique Mommy look like sisters!!

  • It looks like so much fun! I’ll be reading about what Rocks, Boo, and Big all had to say about their respective subjects this week. If I can get over the pre-school insanity.

  • So happy to have met in person, wish i had gotten a pic. I was too shy to ask you, for some reason!

  • I so wish I could have been there! It looks like you all had such a great time!

    You are awesome, DeeDee!

  • I also started blogging during a season of lonliness and frustration. I also homeschool and while it is the perfect situation for us, it also lends itself to isolation at times. None of my closest friends homeschooled and I felt in a no man’s land with no one I could really relate to. Until I started lurking on blogs like yours and eventually starting one of my own.

    I do not have a large readership (is that a word) or many commenters BUT what I do have are a few new friends who I do communicate with regularly, who I think I understand and who I know I can count on! I never thought I would be one of THOSE people who met friends on the internet, but here I am and I love it!

    Thanks for a great post and I am so glad you had fun!

  • As I read all the posts and see all the pictures I feel my jealousy rate raising higher and higher. Especially seeing the shoes…oh my!! I think I just may need to look into She Speaks for next year. Friends are the best and I am happy that you have been blessed with so many!!

  • I love you even more now that I know you– I can actually see you saying the things you write about– which might sound creepy and stalkerish, but I know you will let that slide.
    Girl, I just hope you come back next year and am also considering how I could get down to FL for that used sale next year as well. I wonder if the price of a plane ticket would cancel out the savings I would get… not to mention the extra luggage I would need to tote it all back home? Help me rationalize it all somehow!!

  • Oh my gosh, you’re beautiful! After reading your blog I imagined you frumpy and old, boy was I WRONG! You are one hot mamma!

  • The feeling is mutual, m’dear. Meeting you was a highlight!

  • And? Look at your awesome new header! Good girl!

  • It sounds like it was amazing!

  • Yeah! I thought of you and wondered how the weekend went for you!

    I for one think anyone who can say they are your girlfriend is a lucky duck. I adore you. 🙂

    Glad you’re feeling peace about the blog/book stuff. I’d love to hear more about all of that.

    I’m off to change my sidebar to Fiddledeedee. 🙂

  • ok, bad grammar, I think…
    “anyone who… they are…is a…” I’m jet lagged; that is my excuse.

  • I’m so glad the conference was a hit! Laughter and tears and a roller coaster ride. Will you tell us more about the whole book/blog thinking? I know how God sharpens our vision and changes our direction sometimes at these conferences.