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Off The Top Of My Head

Y’alls comments about yesterdays post regarding the ill effects of heat and humidity on my hair have caused me to break down and just ask for help. And what with the state of the world and all, asking for help for my hair seems rather silly. But lets face it, I am shallow and one dimensional. That’s no secret.

Yesterday, Terri wrote “I did not know that people outside of Texas had hair with its own zip code. You do have some Texas roots, though, right?!?!?” Oh yes ma’am, I have roots all right. Nice dark ones. And yes, they hail from Texas. The land of big hair. I fought the battle of the hair back when I lived there. But, I was young, and a perky ponytail was usually the answer to my issues. When I moved to California, my hair worries were over. I had a good hair day most every day. And I became quite spoiled.

I moved to Florida 9 long years ago, and haven’t had a good hair day since. I left a hair stylist that I adored (shout out to Michelle), and weather that was the perfect consistency for my hair type. And here in Armpit, Florida, there is no stylist that I trust. So, I’m left to my own devices.

Yes, blogging world, I do my own hair. I color it, highlight it, and trim it. Okay, I get a little help with the trimming. Just the parts that I can’t reach. It’s a blunt cut, and hard to screw up. But give me time.

June wrote also, “I’ve had big hair for 40 plus years and when my teenage son with the ENORMOUS hair started using a straightener, I thought, why not try it? First time in my life I’ve EVER had straight hair and I’m LOVING it!”

JUNE! What is this magical straightener that you speak of? Spill your guts. I use a Conair flat iron, and it works for awhile. Sort of. Until I walk outside. I even use a large curling iron to give my hair a little “That Girl” flip. To no avail.

Okay girls, here’s what I’m dealing with. My hair is a blunt cut, not quite shoulder length, with bangs. It’s dry dry dry. I only need to wash it every 2-3 days. Three pregnancies gave it a weird little flip here and there, which is just accentuated by layering. Layering is dead to me. The children resulting from those pregnancies have caused it to go gray. Therefore, I dye it using Loreal Couleur Experte 8.2 (which actually works really well). I use Suave shampoo and conditioner. I KNOW! But, at least it’s the “professional” line. Which costs a whole $1.34 a bottle. I don’t have the time, money, or energy to seek professional help. For my hair at least.

So, I’m turning to you all. No pressure.

I know I need new products. Suave can only do so much. I would post a picture but my camera is out of town. Long story.

And I’m not a hat kind of girl.

And I’m getting just too old for the pony tail.


So there you have it. Perhaps next week I’ll tackle something deep and enlightening. But I doubt it.

48 Responses to Off The Top Of My Head

  • If there is any kind of curl to your hair, read Lorraine Massey’s book Curly Girl. It changed my life.

  • the pantene line is wonderful and you are worth the “splurge” of about $4 a bottle. You get what you pay for in Suave…that’s all I’m going to say.

  • If you live near O town (which is probably near Armpit, FL) then EMAIL me! I have the best hairstylist EVAH. I’ll gladly give you her name.

  • I will second the Pantene or my favorite is the Sunsilk. Great stuff.

    Also……don’t shoot me……coloring your hair isn’t good for it.

    *ducking for thrown objects, unless it is chocolate, then I will use my catchers mit*

  • I use Redken’s http://www.beauty-mart.com/user/catalogue/product_detail.php?productid=9788 and http://www.beauty-mart.com/user/catalogue/product_detail.php?productid=9786 to prolong the life of the color that I have needed for a sweet forever. I have serious issues with my hair (thanks to a bad haircut the eve of Senior pictures – translates to constant reminder when the senior piccie is dusted off) so I pay to have the cut and color on top of the big bucks for Redken. It’s killer. BUT – it’s budgeted baby, and I’ll go without something else to have good hair. In addition to their overpriced shampoo and conditioner (which do seem to work – scheduling the color every 5 weeks instead of 6 seems to help too), I use http://www.beauty-mart.com/user/catalogue/product_detail.php?productid=9750 and this my friends, is the Balm in Gilead. A little dab will do ya, sadly found that out the hard way when I overdid it a tad on the day of bil’s funeral (not that I wasn’t already sad mind you) right after I bought the first bottle and walked around looking like I hadn’t washed my hair in a month of Sundays.

    I have a nice head of hair with a wave. I despise that wave – it is the burr in my saddle, it is a cold sore on the lip of life.

    I blow it dry straight ((Align 12)) then use the straightening iron. It still has it’s days, made worse by my arch enemy Humidito but it’s working. I’m not sure there is anything that can be done about humidity hair – except a for sale sign or a razor and some Skintimate.

  • My hair started fixing so much better when I stopped Shampooing it all the time. I used baking soda and appple cider vinegar to wash it. Or you can buy a natural shampoo from Norther Essence or somewhere like that. It will feel like “dirty” hair. You know, like it’s full of products and then it actually fixes better than when you do use alot of products. I still resort to regular shampoo every once in a while because I have oily hair. With the baking soda you take some and make a paste, massage your roots with it. Rinse and then fill a cup with 1/3 apple cider vinegar 2/3 water and pour over mostly roots. Leave in for a minute or so then rinse! I hope it works for you.

  • I’m with you on the cheap shampoo. And I just pull it up in a barrette or ponytail! Boring, I know.

  • I gave up and now I just keep my hair cut short.

  • I’m not sure which is worse…your big hair or my hair that wants to stay in the ’80s no matter how I get it cut!

    How did Awana go last night? Prayed for you last night.

  • Ok – there is NOTHING wrong with Suave. It’s very afforable, works great, and has a nice smell, which is really what matters. 🙂
    After an unfortunate coloring incident a few months ago, my hair got really dry, and I discovered the miracle of Aussie’s “Hair Insurance”. They have a rinse out kind (that smells WONDERFUL – like the real salon!), and they have a leave-in kind. I use them both. Each is only about $3, so it’s not too bad, and they work like crazy!!!

  • I have long curly frizzy hair and have discovered Aussie Moist Leave-in. Iam in the process of trying out their smoothing line and have not decided for sure if it helps. Aussie is affordable (about $3 a bottle), so I think that it is worth trying. I also dye and cut my own hair, but I am scared of doing highlights on my own. BTW Aussie has a 3minute miricle for heat styled hair. I don’t know if it would make a difference or not. I don’t blow dry, cause it gives me an affro. I am a round white girl and it is not becoming on me, so I stay away from the heat! God bless.

  • This made me smile. I’m not smiling at your hair woes, but at the memories of growing up in SE Texas this brought back.

    When I was in high school, huge hair was the rage and our principal actually imposed a limit (I think it was six inches) on how far our hair could stick out. The hallways were becoming overcrowded with all the big hair. LOL

    I can’t help you with your problem – I live in dry air country – Colorado. But THANK YOU for publicly stating that pregnancy changes your hair. No one believes me but my hair AND my toenails have never been the same. 🙂

  • My stylist always says that it is more important to spend $$$ on good conditioner than shampoo – that most shampoos are pretty much the same, but the conditioners improve your hair the most. I’ve got the same hair you do – what is it with multiple pregnancies & the wave thing? Used to have totally straight hair and now have a moderate natural wave – not enough to look curly – just enough to flip the ends weird and not be smooth. I’m with you, sister!

  • I recommend a spray leave in conditioner. I use one all summer when I’m not working and it works very well in VA humidity. Otherwise, ponytails and headbands are my best friends (ponytails are back “in” as the classy hairstyle for fall). Enjoy the cooler weather! Blessings!

  • Well, since you’ve actually seen pictures of me, you know that I can be of no help.

    Except I will say that I had straight, fine hair before two kids and now I have quite a bit of body. Hey, that could apply both ways, but I’ll just limit it to the hair and be done with it so that I won’t feel quite as depressed over not having jeans that will zip anymore, okay?

  • My hair is poodle curly and I just kind of go with it, I have other giants to battle. But I finally, this last year got rid of most of the frizz.

    I still shampoo & condition with Suave, but use Rusk leave in conditioner or Frizz-Ease leave in conditioner and the little bottle of Frizz-Ease hair serum.

    It works about 90% of the time. When the humidity reaches “wring out your underwear” nothing works and I try to be spunky with a twisty bun. I’m deluding myself that I look spunky, but it’s off my neck.

    Hubs cuts the back of my hair & I cut the front. I ditched the layers 20 years ago.

  • Onecoolmama’s got it! My son’s hair got really dry from the pool and mine from coloring and perming, so I bought Aussie’s “MOIST” shampoo and conditioner and the 3 minute miracle conditioner for a boost every now and then. Both of us lost the Texas frizzies! Not real expensive either!

  • One word… CHI.

  • I’m probably no help. I use nothing but Pantene shampoo and conditioner, and I don’t use a hair dryer or curling iron. I wash it, towel dry, and then let it air dry the rest of the way. I’m so high maintenance. It’s mostly straight, although I do have some weird flippy places, too, but my hair is really long, so it’s not that big a deal. Especially since my default hair style is either in a ponytail or tied in a knot and secured with a barrette or giant clip. Come to think of it, maybe the weird flippy places are trained that way from being tied in a knot all the time. Hmm…

  • I can relate to you to well. I love when I visit AZ and it is so dry there, my hair is happy hair. I too have not had a good hair day since I moved here almost 13 years ago. (oh my goodnes has it been 13 yrs….sigh…where has time gone). Sorry back to subject of hair…

    Mine is freezy, I have to use a flat iron just to get it to laydown. I can email you what I use when I get home.

    I don’t know if it is the weather or what but the last week or so my face has been greesy…and I ususally don’t deal with that. Maybe it is because I am getting older….that and chin hair…ugg don’t even get me started.

    I have rambled to much. See what you started…hehehe.

  • Do you have a girlfriend that has her hair stylist liscence? I have mine and I buy all my girlfriends their hair products for literally and half the price of what they would pay in the salon. It’s really not that much more than the grocery store shampoo which is usually does a job on your hair. I don’t do hair, I keep my license renewed strictly for the hair products. They are at stores that only hairdressers get into. Secret Society. Anyway, I bought a CHI straightener at Bed Bath & Beyond with the coupon and its wonderful. I have extremely curly hair. You also have to use hair products to, like a serum. Put that on before you straighten. Home dye jobs are the worst. Pay to get your hair done. It’s a chunck to spit up but it’s the best thing for your hair and your apprearance. I can spot a home dye job. You are worth it and you deserve it. I stretch out my touch ups and get it done 2 times a year.

  • In all of my bazillion years walking planet earth I’ve not experienced a good hair day.

    But I do use Aussie Moist shampoo and conditioner. At Target you can get the large bottles (they last us generally about 4 months) for about $5-$6.00. Not bad I say.

    I desperately need to color my hair, my children think I am 10-20 years older than I really am. And my own dear man thinks I’m older than I am. In fact a friend of mine who is a few years older was aghast to learn she is in fact older than I am.

  • I forgot to state that my girlfriends pay me for their hair products, I’m not that nice of a friend. I also buy the teachers of my children hair products for Christmas and end of the year gifts and they are tickeled pink and they can tell a difference with their hair. After their gift runs out they ask me to get some more for them next time I make my run to the secret society.

  • Did you ever see that “Friends” where they all go to the Caribbean (exact island escapes me) and Monica’s hair keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger throughout the episode?

    Classic. And now I think of you in terms like that.

    No advice. My hair is stick-straight and has a mind of its own. But it sounds like others are chiming in with thoughts that are actually practical, bless them.

  • OK, here’s my regimen. My hairdresser recommended Pureology shampoo and conditioner. It’s the SuperStraight version in the blue bottle. I also use the Relaxing Hair Serum, which is a leave-in product, same company. Word of warning – these are COSTLY, but you only need a small bit, it’s concentrated. Love the smell and love the feel of my hair.

    The electric straightener I use is the Remington Wet2Straight. No blow drying needed. Watch your fingers, it steams as it dries and straightens! I’ve done this in humid Arkansas during the summer and my hair stays straight all day long. I can post photos on my blog of the difference before straightening and after straightening. 🙂

    Hope you find something that works for you!

  • OK, posted the before and after photos on my blog. My hair is also longer now and I love it straight.
    Family Blog

  • try that john frieda stuff…it’s new….the glaze (either clear or colored)…it’s like an extra conditioner you use in the shower and then rinse out….it’s working WONDERS on my normally frizzified hair!!!! six bux a bottle, but hey, i just tell myself six bux is not that bad to pay for feeling good in my hair!!!! Hehehe…

  • I’m naturally curly/frizzy and fought to get it straight for years. I finally gave in to the curl, and girl it’s all about the product! I use Herbal Essense “No more frizzy” dark orange bottle shampoo and conditioner, and Garnier green bottle curl enhancer. Shampoo, condition, towel dry, flip upside down over the tub and spray with the curl enhancer. Flip back up and run your fingers through to arrange the curls some and let it air dry. scrunch and fluff as it finishes drying, and forget it! Most people compliment my curls now that I’ve quit fighting it. Good luck, and post us a picture!

  • Okay, first ditch the Suave shampoo and conditioner. It isn’t even near salon quality.
    Second, find a good shampoo and conditioner, like Tresemme, or Aussie Mega, or Garnier Fructis. Switch them around each time you buy, and buy in bulk when you do buy. I buy really big bottles of shampoo and conditioner, and I’m the only one using it. Hubby has his own!
    Anyway, get shampoo that is specifically designed for extremely dry frizzy hair. Even Dove would probably work for you.
    I have slightly frizzy oily hair, and live in Texas, I use Garnier Fructis right now. When this bottle is empty I will buy another brand.
    I learned this trick in college when a friend with never dull, always beautiful hair told me the trick. Your hair gets used to the same shampoo over time, so its good to switch them out every few months.
    As for straightening? Well, I embraced the layered look. If I want it straight, I just wash it the night before and straighten it with my good ole Conair the next morning. You can get frizz control gels and sprays. I’m sure someone has suggested one already.
    Good luck.

  • I went to cosmetology school and the one thing I learned was to spend a little more on shampoo and conditioner. I buy suave once in a while and my hair starts getting frizzier (is that a word) after awhile so I go back. I go to a salon and buy better shampoo and conditioner and it lasts much longer than suave so while it does cost more it isn’t a huge difference. Once we get closer to middle age(which we aren’t and won’t be for many years) out hair starts changing and the frizzies get worse.

  • Move to a dry, arid climate or do what my husband does…shave your head.

    I’m terrible at giving advice. Maybe that’s why I quit blogging.

  • I’m not sure we can truly help you unless you post a picture! 😉

    Is your hair naturally a bit curly? If so, you need to get your hands on a copy of the book Curly Girl by Lorraine Massey. She has great tips in there, and it has transformed my hair from looking like it has some wave and I stuck my fingers in a socket to having big, fun curls!

  • well, someone introduced this naturally curly haired person to chemical straighteners…you know “Japanese Thermal Straightening” and I’m so in love. I love my straight hair after years of hating my curly hair. Never could style it right.

  • Hey DeeDee,

    I was a hair stylists for 10 years before becoming a stay-at-home momma. I understand your plight and have the same issues. Here’s what I suggest.

    #1 The best product out there is Bed Head Tigi. You can get it at Target and Sometimes at Wal-Greens, but incase you can’t find it go to http://www.tigihaircare.us

    I recommend Bed Head Control Freak Shampoo and Manipulator Daily Conditioner.

    You are gonna pay a bit more for this product, but it works really good.

    If you have any questions feel free to email me.

  • 5 words.

    John Frieda’s Frizz-Ease Hair Serum.

    Ok. Maybe that’s 6. I have tons of hair. Each hair has it’s own zip code. This stuff works. I am in love with it. There is nothing else for me to add. Except 2 more words.

    Try. It.

  • Can’t speak from personal experience but my sis who lives in FL leaves the straightner unplugged and instead uses the IRON!!! Yes, she lays her hair down on the ironing board and irons it. I wouldn’t let the neighbors catch you doing it – it just looks wierd…. but her hair is straight 😉

  • Here are my thoughts

    1. Upgrade to some fancy shampoo. I think you get what you pay for in this department.

    2. Travel if you must, but get a professional haircut just this once. Then you can maintain it yourself if you want to, but get it styled by someone who knows how to work with the texture and “personality” of your hair.

    3. Most importantly: one is never too old for a ponytail. It is a woman’s best hair friend.

  • I AM a hairstylist, currently working. The first thing we learned in school was the shampoos that are the worst. The winner is Johnson’s baby shampoo as the worst. 2nd place is SUAVE!!! It not only dries out your hair, but leaves it frizzy and unmanageable. Go to a salon and spend the money – you won’t be sorry. They know what to sell you – something gentle for colored hair and also a frizz/curl control serum to put on wet hair. If you air dry your hair then straighten you will be happier. But use gentle heat. Finish with a soft hair spray. Without seeing your actual hair it’s really hard to say but throw out the SUAVE! lol really! Target and Walmart have some lines of professional products, but supposedly they are not actual products but knock offs. But they are expensive also and for a couple bucks more you can get great hair care at a salon. I wish I was there or you were here.
    p.s. Only two soaps are actually ph balanced and those are Dove and Caress. Just in case that’s also an issue lol.

  • Oh my sweet sister from another mother!
    I have so been where you are and I’ve made it my personal mission to help others in there time of hair neediness. And I live in TX, so I feel like I can speak with authority on the subject.

    Please read my hair testimonial at:


    (If for some reason you can’t click there, it is in my August archive titled “To Chi or Not to Chi”)

    It will work for you, too!

  • Also while out and about, if you see someone with great hair, don’t be afraid to ask where and with whom she gets it done. And how long she’s been going there. Word of mouth is a great source for almost everything.

  • Oh, I am SO going to break down and buy this Chi thing that you all speak so highly of!

  • $135!!!!!!????????? I’m having heart failure here.

    Seriously, the Remington one works great. And it was around $30. Maybe less. 🙂

  • The CHI works better than ANY OTHER straightener. It is WORTH IT! The best part…once it is straight, it stays straight until wet.

    Look for one on eBay.

  • I was a big Suave user b/c I am soooo cheap. It is well worth spending extra on a great shampoo and conditioner. Suave no more!

    What exactly is the cut off age for wearing a ponytail? Yikes! I may have surpassed it.

  • Amen to the Curly Girl suggestion. The main idea is that if you have any wave, frizz or curl in your hair (and curly hair is typically on the dry side), you never EVER use shampoo. Wash with conditioner only and never try to straighten your hair. Look for Massey’s book, and Deva Curl products from her salon.

  • I know this is an older post, but my ‘puter crashed, and I had 11 posts to catch up on with you…so, I’ve just gotten to this one, and since I live in Texas and had a 4 year college stint in Florida, I felt I just HAD to pass on to you the miracle of miracles…Ogilvie Hair Straightener. It is in the grocery store with the perms. It costs $7.50 and the first time I used it, I had straight hair for 3 months straight with no need for the flat iron. The second time I used it, it lasted 5 months. I’m getting ready to use it for the third time pretty soon here. Honestly, I usually wash my hair at night and go to bed with wet hair. I wake up in the morning with smooth, straight, hair. It’s amazing!

    I have 4 kids, I homeschool, I bake cakes and cookies on the side and I have zero time for my hair….it’s the best thing I’ve ever bought in my entire life!

  • Hello. Your blog is hysterical. I will be back to visit often. That said..I am a professional hair dresser and my advice to you is…put a semi-permanent hair color on your hair…and I would chose a light/warm brown for you. Semi-permanents will still cover gray and they coat your individual hair strands…therefore….less frizz and they are sooo much better for your hair. Also, straightening dries the heck out of your hair but you can get away with it if you only do it a couple times a week….wash and let it air dry at night, straighten the next morning and only touch up the next day or two. ALSO…John Freida is just as good as most salon products…it is wonderful and their color line is the best that I have found… Hope this helps. Let me know if you need further assistance…I’m just a click away.

    Take care