It isn’t difficult for me to stay apprised of all the goings on around here. I boast of that mother’s intuition thing, and also it doesn’t hurt to have a couple of small narcs underfoot. No one has any problem letting me know when someone else has committed an infraction. I suppose because it deflects unwanted attention away from the tattler. And while punishment is dutifully doled out, the more innocent of the other two siblings suddenly morph into golden angels, straightening their halos and answering all questions with soft “yes ma’ams”, or “no ma’ams.”
It’s unnerving.
Thankfully, the siblings don’t harbor any resentment toward one another. And everyone has an equal opportunity to land in trouble. Lately Jensen has even been taking copious mental notes and is getting his fair share of the action. The other day as Cailey was sent to her room for time-out, Jensen trailed behind her, his tiny pointer finger aimed in her general direction, hollering “NO, NO, NO, NO!” All the way down the hall and to her room. Where she promptly shut the door, locking the little brother out. He continued his lecture for a couple of more minutes, then tired, and went looking for someone else to terrorize.
He also has no trouble letting me know if one of the sisters has done something despicable to him, or his beloved cars. With big blue tear filled eyes, he stands tall and accusing, pointing that finger at the offending sibling while letting them have it with a clear “NO, NO, NO, NO!” And furthermore, “NO!”
And he doesn’t limit his judgment to his sisters. He is a self-corrector as well. While working in the kitchen, with my back to him, I heard “NO, NO, NO, NO!” I turned to see who was torturing him, and found him sitting on top of the kitchen table. Looking very guilty. There was no one else in the room.
Since I may very well be raising a future Hall Monitor, I’m going to go ahead and get him a day-glo orange vest and a pocket protector. For his pens. To issue citations.
Why is that we’re so quick to judge others? I’m as guilty as my own children. Is to to deflect attention from my own foibles?
Luke 6:42
How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
This is an ongoing battle that I’ve waged. My quickness to judge, without correcting my own rotten behavior first. I’ve been praying that God helps me to look beyond the outward characteristics, and find a common ground with those I might ordinarily shun. Maybe to learn something important from another perspective.
And keep my own pointer finger trained toward Heaven.
Have a terrific weekend everyone! Over the next couple of days, Fiddledaddy is giving my site a little makeover. A girl can always use a little makeover.














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My 6yo is very bad about “deflecting blame.” When I ask what’s going on, the first word out of her mouth is her sister’s name. It’s one of our spotlight areas we’re working on this summer.
As for myself, I find that when I concentrate on my own behavior and attitude, rather than DH or friends, I am much more content, and so are those around me.
So why is it that when I know what works, I still often choose what doesn’t?
Love it, sweetie. Great post.
Keep up the awesome blogging.
We have a rule, if no one is bleeding or doing something that will cause bleeding, DON’T TATTLE!! I just cringe whenever I hear that sing-song “Mooooommmm! Guess what Bubba’s doing…”
I raised 3 boys and our “tattling” rule was. If you tattle and your brother gets in trouble…you get in trouble, too, because you tattled. Unless there is danger involved .
Hard as it sometimes was, I always tried to instill in them, “”Look out for your brothers…you’ll never have a better friend.” However, that was debateable on some days…and weeks…and even years. But now, that they’re grown…it is so true!
Blessings to you’
Tonja
There’s a whole lotta truth talkin’ going on here. And I’m giving this a sounding amen! (An then pointing that finger right at myself so that I know I mean me as well.)
We have three boys in our household (and a daughter, too). I always say “it takes two to tango” so if no one would confess to an infraction, they both got punished. I’ve even sat our two oldest boys down at the kitchen table facing each other with a piece of paper and pencil. They were instructed to write out how they thought their brother should be punished. Believe me, they were careful about what they wrote. . . !!!!! And were friends again. And I still have the papers in my Bible!
You are the highlight of my day…thank you! This is an awesome reminder! Thank you and have a great day! Sunshine
I have to watch myself on that one too. Thanks for the reminder!
I have been reading your daily entries… what a gift you have…
I also wanted to share a little of what my dear daddy taught me as a child.. long ago.. when you point one finger at another person you have 3 pointing bakc at you.. he was a great father who loved Christ with all he had…he did have a firm hand but all the love he gave was beyond belief.. may you and yours be greatly blessed!
This is my life!! I didn’t even get through the whole post without one of my kids tattling on the others and the one not mixed up in it was consoling the one that was “hurt.” Great advice in the above posts- I’m always looking for tips on how to handle it. My oldest is only 4 so there’s still hope
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I have been struggling with the judgment thing lately, too. More than usual. Great post! Looking forward to the makeover results!
I think we hitched a ride on the same boat. I am so much guilty of “plank-in-the-eye” syndrome – especially when it comes to my brothers & sisters in Christ…
Thanks for the encouragement.
That is too funny. I also loved the Barbie post and the secret code. They are great! And yes, we do sometimes make judgements about what and who we think people are and aren’t. Thanks for the eyeopener.
I know I’m guilty of this! My hubby and my sister call me the Universe Police!!!
Great post. Can’t wait to see your new look!
Enjoy the weekend…
I love to read your blog. I can’t remember how I found you, but I’m glad I have. You should definitely think about writing a book, if you can find time while raising 3 kiddos.
Great message and one we all need to hear to often. It’s som much easier to see someone else’s flaws.
Mine do that–especially the middle–she LOVES to be perfect when her sister gets in trouble.
So cute :0)
Have a great weekend!
Trina
You have a new look for your blog!!!! Looks great!
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We learn so much from our kids. We just do.
Love the new look girl! You got a talented hubby. He’s a keeper!
Our dog even tattles on herself. She hides from us when she has done something wrong and when we ask her if she is sorry she runs to us and gives us kisses!
Good lesson today Miss DeeDee. It is so easy for us to point the finger at someone else, but there is always three pointing right back at us. I’ve been trying to memorize some verses and this is another good one I need to store in my head.
Love ya girl and I’ll be back sometime next weekend. Keep me in your prayers please!
Fun to see how you change things on the site–I”m looking for a good graphic designer who knows HTML myself to do an update on mine.
I too am working on not judging other people and I am getting better. My next thing to work on is gossip….
You can tattle at my house if there is a fire, a flood or blood.
Do they follow the rule? NO, NO, NO, NO, NO. :/
LOL
Good reminder!! THANKS.
Hey, DeeDee, this is totally off topic, but I’ve tagged you as a Rockin Girl Blogger. Thanks for always being so much fun to read! I really enjoy stopping by.
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