Comments on: Crime and Punishment

By: k

Tue, 03 Jul 2007 21:38:54 +0000

I’m a spanker. Both my kids are grown with college degrees, active in Christian music, well rounded so it apparently didn’t damage them, and I believe kept me from being damaged. However, I used to charge them 25 cents for every pair of dirty socks or underwear I had to turn right side out for the laundry. After coughing up their own money, they learned to follow the rules. And I got some pocket change for whatever.

By: Deidre

Deidre — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 23:56:06 +0000

My baby turns 2 on July 4th and I’m shuttering at the thought that I’m having to start disciplining (more, I mean). I’m tired from my first…can’t she just play along and do the right thing???? :0

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 20:50:11 +0000

Interesting list of books, I’ll have to look into them-LOL!

0:) Amber

By: kittyhox

kittyhox — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 02:12:16 +0000

Funny stuff!

My son is only one, so I am not qualified to offer any parenting advice. Particularly since I haven’t figured out how in the WORLD to squash his month-long tendency to squeal/scream whenever things don’t go his way. It’s so irksome! I’m just ignoring it, but it’s not working.

My favorite example of motivational parenting was something my Uncle Gary once did. He worked at the North Slope for weeks at a time and when her returned home he was informed by my Aunt Nancy that his son and daughter, both teens had been bickering the entire time.

So he warned them that the next time they squabbled they would be sitting on the sofa holding hands for a predetermined amount of time. And the next time it happened, he followed through. It was the very last time, too.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 06:25:15 +0000

I would love this information too! We have 3 children ages 5, 4, & 3 (Yes, I know) who are almost like raising triplets. The fighting, the yelling, the screaming, the whinning- all Xs 3! Individually they are each just little angels, but put them together, which is most all day everyday, and watch out the house may not last this stage/age of our children, LOL. I’d like to say the our children are knowledgable of the word of Jesus Christ, but they are not- that is on me, but I’m guessing had they started at an early age some of these issues would be much different! Any advice is always welcome.

By: Overwhelmed With Joy!

Overwhelmed With Joy! — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 05:44:46 +0000

We also made the choice not to spank, before we adopted our son.

Time outs and redirection have always worked well for us. At times, when he throws a 2 year old tantrum, we walk him into his room, sit him on his bed, and tell him he needs some quite time in his room and to let us know when he’s ready to come out and be pleasant. It doesn’t take him long to knock on his door (he can’t open it yet) and ask to come out, but sometimes he actually falls asleep because he’s tired and crabby.

By: OneCoolMama

OneCoolMama — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 04:00:05 +0000

You are quick thinking that early in the morning BEFORE your caffeine? Wow.
And I feel strangely encouraged that so many commenters are having trouble with their seven year olds. I’ve been wondering what is going on with mine.

By: Leah Jones

Leah Jones — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 02:52:28 +0000

Alrighty, so we also decided not to spank. Then we ended up spanking when my oldest was about 3. Nothing seemed to work.
We decided right away that hands, spoons, belts, and the like were not for spanking. Only a paddle will do. A paddle that was intended for spanking, and spanking alone.
After all, hands are for loving. Spoons are for cooking. Belts hold up your pants, etc, etc, etc.

Anyway. The older they get (oldest now the less I need to spank. It pays to discipline early–no matter what the method–so as not to have them run all over you when they get older.

Blessings to you all!

By: Deedra @NspiredByFaith

Deedra @NspiredByFaith — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 21:06:30 +0000

Oh wait…I have one more….In my SS class I used to tell them I was going to tell the Pastor on them if they didn’t behave…one kid told me he didn’t care, the Pastor wasn’t his boss! I told him that God was the Pastor’s boss and the Pastor might tell God on him. THAT got his attention. (I repented immediately afterward!)

By: Deedra @NspiredByFaith

Deedra @NspiredByFaith — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 21:03:47 +0000

My child is only a year old so I’m limited here, but I stayed over with a friend once whose parents used to lock her out of the house when she was bad (at age 6 or 7)! Seriously! They locked us out for doing something one evening…yes, evening, as in not long before dark. I left my stuff at their house and walked to my grandmothers (she lived about a mile away!) Needless to say, I didn’t go back there! (Except with my Grandmother who marched up to their door and demanded my things..lol) Their daughter was still outside, they didn’t even know I was missing! Can you even imagine???